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Waldron Mission Fund |
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Under the oversight of the elders of the Crossville church of Christ, PO Box 211, Crossville, TN 38557 |
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Vol 1 AUG 1998 No. 8 |



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GOOD ADVICE Bryan Hodge
I remember quite well some advice an older preacher (Charles Elledge Hill, now deceased) once gave me. He told me that preachers (elders or others) should avoid being alone with a woman in counseling, Bible study, or personal visit, or in any other situation that can be avoided.
His reason was really quite simple. First, it avoids the potential for jealousy and mistrust on the part of their spouse or their own. Second, it prevents rumors and gossip from spreading. Third, it eliminates the opportunity for impropriety. In counseling sessions especially, if domestically things are not going well at home for the one being counseled, it is easy for the one receiving the attention from the counselor to develop a certain attraction for the counselor. Fourth, it avoids the “Clarence Thomas Syndrome” as I would call it. That is, it keeps one out of the situation where she is saying one thing and you are saying another, and there is no witnesses to establish what in fact did happen.
This was his reasoning. As I reflect back upon what he said, I believe this to be good healthy advice for all Christians, especially for those who are married. The Bible says plainly that we ought to avoid situations that appear to be less than honorable (I Cor. 16:1-4; 2 Cor. 8:16-21). Certainly to do so is wise (Gen. 39:11-ff).
Rt 4, Box 152X , Savannah, TN 38372
(Editorial Note: Bryan Hodge’s advise above is very good. Godly elders and faithful gospel preachers are most competent to give people spiritual guidance for their lives. This God expects them to do. They should, however, explain to those in need of counsel that they speak as elders or gospel preachers, not as “professional counselors.” We realize sometimes individuals do need “professional help,” even medical help. Also, the local church might want to contact their regular insurance provider to inquire concerning what in the industry is called “Pastorial Counseling Liability.” |
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